"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else."
– Judy Garland.
What is love? Do you love it when you are loved in totality - without any expectations in return? I am sure you do, it also depends on which person is doing that. What makes a person love you even more? - yourqualities, looks, behavior, moral values, or something else. So one person loves another person, place, animal, thing, etc. Then what is self-love?
When you love yourself for who you are, what you do, your looks, values, behavior and almost everything. It can be about loving yourself for nothing or showing love by doing certain important things for yourself like - getting a college degree.
We also talk about "true love". Does that mean fake love exists? Well, I think “true love” unlike fake onecan be felt also and this is where we are lovedunconditionally. Fake love is where a person is faking her love for you and might even mistreat you the other times. So true love can be tagged as 'love' only. Love has to be true otherwise it's not love anymore.
Loving yourself is not about being selfish
Putting your selfies on instagram, buying gifts for yourself, using makeup, and praising yourself in front of a mirror - this type of self-love is sometimes seen as being selfish or narcissistic but it isn't like that.
If love is between mother and daughter, then it is selfish if only one person's needs are being met by another person. If only one is putting in efforts and the one who is enjoying it never stops taking and taking, then the relationship isn’t worth it.
How to become more self-loving?
Love is when you are accepting yourself as you are and not giving up on yourself no matter what happens. You should have best and clear intentions for yourself. Become a loving person instead of seeking love.
Everyone wants to feel love but are not into self-love, you are expecting something from others which you are not doing yourself. This way, you will keep yourself far away from love whenever you are alone. It is important to apply the below given tips of self-love in your life:
Show yourself love by:
• Spending time alone – You deserve to spend some time of your day alone so that you can feel relaxed and so that you can figure everything out in your mind. In this time, you will be strengthening the relationship with yourself.